My wife can not have a disagreement, it always has to be a full blown fight. I am ready to give up.?

I'm sorry, but I have 2 toddlers and go to school full-time, and yet I get NO help from my husband on chores, let alone having a maid, mother's day out program, or nanny. She has the high-life, and perhaps it has gone a little to much to her head. At the same time, I fight occasionally with my husband, but it usually is about the majority of things falling on me, (since I study, take care of kids, clean, and get far less of a break than he does even working his job). One thing about some women you have to realize is that we will let things slide past that we don't comment about, but it eventually we start to let them fester until the slightest occasion sets us off. With me, it is having to spend hours a day cleaning up messes my husband and kids make with no help from my husband, and with you wife it sounds like she misses you and doesn't let those emotions show until she just explodes. We are very curious creatures, and we will let things bottle up until we have little control over our emotions. Just try to explain things a little more, like about how you have to work so much right now, and it won't be a permanent situation, and maybe she will understand a little better and not internalize during those times shes sitting at home wanting you to be there. Good luck, and hope this gives you some sight into the stay-at-home-mom psyche!